photos from my afternoon with lyndzii at astro coffee.
One of the many things i’ve been working on these days is letting go of the labels i’ve wrongfully put on myself. They aren’t wrong because they aren’t true, the are wrong because they shouldn’t be there. Am I making sense? Life isn’t black and white, it’s a million shades of all different colors. When we label ourselves, it suffocates our ability to evolve and fills our minds with limitations. As I get older, this is making more and more sense to me, but it’s hard to let go of the labels when society is constantly sticking them on us.
Today, society tells me i’m an introvert living in a world where those who succeed are more often than not extroverts. Good ol’ labels. They hold you down, tell you aren’t good enough, and cause self doubt.
Before “introvert” became a buzz word, the label I was given was “shy”. I believed it; it hindered me from making friends. I told myself that nobody wants to be friends with someone who is quiet, so I put little effort into putting myself out there. When people tried to reach out to me, I just figured they wouldn’t like me so I didn’t put any effort back. In my mind, I was okay with this and I figured this would always be.
Since then, a handful of really awesome people have come into my life and shown me that it doesn’t matter what i’ve been labeled- they love me for me, whoever I may be. They let me be silly when I feel like it and quiet when I need to be. They don’t get mad when when it takes me hours to text back and they are just as excited to see me, as I am to see them. This has been the best part of “growing up”..finding my people.
Last week, Lyndzii and I went to Detroit to do some
exploring eating and it was when I got home, that I really started thinking about how lucky I am to have her in my life. Friends who let you be yourself, to grow, and to evolve are keepers. I want to be that type of friend.
I think the world would be a better place if we all worked on being that kind of friend and we stopped labeling people.